Tuesday, October 31, 2017
I don't write anymore. I remember when that was all that I did and the only thing I was proud of. I remember when writing was the only time I felt safe, and at peace, and whole. And then it wasn't. I don't remember that. I'm not sure when everything changed but it was somewhere in the downward spiral of addiction, when I just had no words, or the words I did have haunted me so badly when I put them on paper. Writing didn't give me any peace anymore. I didn't want to think about what was happening to me, let alone lay it to a page where I'd have to read over it and remember, "Shit. That's my life I'm talking about." The writing stopped when I started writing letters I'd never send. When I choked without speaking. Halloween was our New Years. It was his first, but it was mine too. For some people, New Years is New Years, or their birthday is New Years. For me it was Halloween. Somehow never going quite right. Somehow always being the best night and the one I most looked forward to. Cynical people tell me I'm too old to look forward to things like Halloween now. People I trust. People I believe even when I don't want to. Like, if they said I'd be dead, you don't understand how quickly my organs would begin shutting down. That's how much I believe them. I look forward to Halloween. But I am too old now to do that. It' 8:20pm and I am home, and alone, and they would tell me that's how it is. That's just how it is. I'm lucky. I used to celebrate Devil's Night too. I hated how they tried to pervert it. All Saints or Angel Night. Let it be what it is. Let me have it. I'm not afraid of the dark parts. Only the light that lets me see the monster's faces. I went to bed early last night. I am depressed. And it isn't the kind that just simply happens. Where you wake up on a Wednesday and you can't get out of bed and you can't explain to your family who has never been depressed that something aching within you is making it impossible to eat or move or bathe. I am depressed and I have reasons. I can get out of bed. This is not an illness. It is a side effect of being caught in the center of a tornado, and not being able to fight through the funnel to reach the whole world on the other side. It is the symptom of the storm, when you are in the midst of it, so deep you can't even see it. Knowing that it touches down only so often, and when it does it only breeds destruction. And all the people who see it, don't know you are inside. I can go to work, and go to school, and get good grades, and clean up after myself. I can put on makeup. I am depressed. Everything hurts. Every second. I haven't cried in a long time. Even when he went away and ignored me, suddenly. Even when my breast stayed swelled up and red and painful. Even when my blood pressure was only 97/47. I didn't cry. One time I think I cried all my tears, the last of them, and that was just the end of it. Sometimes I feel like crying, I just don't. It's not something I think I do anymore. Even when my heart breaks now. Why cry? I'm unmedicated. Because even though everything hurts all the time, I still get out of bed. I still go to work. I do my homework. I get good grades. I clean my house, I bathe. I put on makeup. I laugh. Sometimes its scary when I laugh because I shake the same way I do when I cry. Sometimes I tear up and I don't know if I've crossed an imperceptible line between laughing and crying. But I don't cry anymore. I'm unmedicated because I don't cry. I'm unmedicated because I don't need medicine. I'm not ill, mentally or otherwise. I'm just depressed and there are reasons. And one of the reasons is medication. And what it did to someone I love. And how I said I love you to someone who ruined my life. It's halloween and I'm sober.
Thursday, May 7, 2015
Lover, have I been too hard on you? When I tricked you, when I licked my wounds and grimaced, when i writhed before your eyes, pulled my knife out, made you watch me make incisions. When I called you every vile name I thought of, when I hauled off, put my hands on you, caught up in the ways our parents taught us Lover, have I been too hard on you? Too cold hearted, too entitled to give pardon, not realizing we'd be parted Lover, have I been fucking blind, made you sick while I lied to you, smiled knowing I controlled your mind. When I used my words for hurting, when I used the tongue and lips I kiss you with to hurl insults, like a sin against our gifts. Lover, did my ego take the reins, sitting high upon my horse, forcing you to take the blame for all my pain. Disappointed when you didn't give me diamonds, when you didn't give me time, when you didn't mind the silk I let you climb in. Angry when you didn't say my name, when your eyes wandered aimlessly, even as my own self did the same. Scorned when you tore my flesh apart, then you started out in darkness, when you didn't rest your head where we made art. Jealous when you didn't share your riches, when you didn't give me dinners, trips, and gifts, when you didn't make me Mrs. Lover, have I been too hard on you? When I forgot you bleed, that you will leave this world, that someday I will too. When I forgot that we will someday say goodbye, and i won't know it when I hear your words that day, that it will be for the last time.
Thursday, October 3, 2013
How much of this can i blame on you? Where is the seam sewn that subtly separates your arm from my torso? It’s been years now. Maybe it’s been enough. when I said I was done, I was empty. I felt nothing. For the first few weeks I didn’t even miss you. I thought of you, but it didn’t make my heart feel like your hand was around it, squeezing it so my blood seeped out between your knuckles. I felt...okay. I always thought that in the end everything would be okay, and maybe that’s why I felt like I was ready to be done. Remember the flaw in your introversion? You always forgot that I keep breathing without you. I suppose it was one of our greatest common traits. I forgot that I keep breathing without you. What an awful surprise when I inhaled and you weren’t even there to see it. Sometimes I can’t remember why I do anything when you’re not there to see it. Sometimes I sing and I let my voice trail off because I know it cannot reach your ears, so what’s the point? Your opinion of me always dictated my self-esteem. I think you knew that. Maybe you took advantage of it because you were young. Sometimes I just think you’re evil. You watched your words sear like you were branding your disapproval into my skin. You watched my tender flesh smolder, as your sentiments sizzled like acid deep into my fat cells, my muscle, my vital tissues. I think that always made you come. Your sadistic sex seemed so natural at one point. I can’t remember why now. I wish I could. I fight the sleep because that’s when you come back. You come back and I’m four months pregnant in a giant garden where the babies live before we women let them suture into our wombs and grow human bodies there. You come back and I’m four months pregnant and you tell me you’re leaving. I’m four months pregnant and I can’t be helped. I can’t get out of me what you’ve embedded into my tender folds. You always do this. You always come inside of my fertile mind. You know damn well how pregnable my brain is. You knock my consciousness up. Tie me down with your synaptic seed. Then you leave me to raise these ideas on my own. You’re a deadbeat. Him. He should’ve stopped. Maybe I didn’t come right out and say it, but he knew what I was thinking. He knew what I meant when I pled with him. He knew his ignorance was cutting me a thousand times. Tiny cuts, but so many, such volume, it was nearly enough to kill me, to deafen my central nervous system. A thousand slivers all infected with white hot intolerance. A thousand slits he had to make, because that one I was born with controlled him so forcefully. He had to escape so badly, he didn’t realize I wasn’t trying to hold him captive in the first place. He left me desolate. I tried to stop him. I guess when he got far enough away to see things clearly he looked back at me and suddenly thought I was beautiful. It just wasn’t enough for me. Not once I’ve been left forlorn. Not once I’ve been told I’m damaged. Now I see myself how you did. Now you see me different, but my eyes are the same. I never feel beautiful when I’m with you. I feel old and desperate. I feel embarrassed still. I don’t know how to make these cuts close up. Part of me doesn’t want to, diamonds only sparkle if you cut them many times. I’m so injured, but if you hadn’t done this, I’d still be only a rock. It is so painful to shine. It is so scarring to hold value. Now. Now I am damaged. There are some similarities between you two. Your pride. Your cockiness. The way you crave my praises. I turned you over and over and found a hundred things to love about you within the first week of meeting you. You looked at one side of me and pushed me out of your arms. I will never forget that. I will never ask you to hold me again. I may wish you would, but I won’t ask it. I’ve a bit of pride myself. Secondly, the drugs. Everything that’s going on right now is only half real, the rest is the marijauna enhancing the great things and helping you forget the bad ones. Half of your love isn’t real. When you tell me how you care about me, I always deduct 50% automatically. Better safe than shattered. In the end one of us will be shattered. It’s just a matter of whether or not the other will pick up those pieces and carry them along until they find something to glue them back together with. I got shattered last time. He left my pieces, cursing me for being breakable. You are fools. I’m only breakable so that you may know you have the power to destroy someone. I’m only breakable to feed your pride. So that you may sleep soundly every night you don’t rip my soft little girl body to shreds, proud of your ignorant mercy. You fucking fools.